Building Confidence in Children before Schooling

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Confidence is a skill, and it is one that we can help our children develop. In this article, we’ll take a look at how we can build confidence in our children before schooling.


Providing your child with sincere love and affection is a great way to build their confidence before schooling. When we show love, we let our children know that they matter and that they belong. This sets a great foundation for confidence, because it gives our children the freedom to explore: they know that even if they fall, someone will help them up.


Praising your child lets them feel good about themselves and what they are achieving.


If your child does something well, tell them. However, be honest with how you phrase it. Instead of saying, “you’re the best artist ever!”, say, “I like how you used the colour blue.” This specific praise will feel more genuine and sincere, and your child will appreciate that.

When it’s Needed

If your child has achieved something, let them know that you are proud of them. If they made a few mistakes, let them know that that’s okay too – that their effort matters and that they can work on their mistakes and do better next time.

This will let their self-esteem be healthy, and not overly focused on achievements.


Parents have a major role to play in how children feel about themselves, and this starts from the moment children are born.

Research shows that children model their behaviours off the way their parents and guardians behave. This means that if you want your child to have a healthy sense of self-esteem, you should model it for them. Encourage self-love and happiness.

Celebrate your successes and achievements with your children, and discuss how you achieved them. Ask them about their goals, and discuss how their talents could be developed so that their goals can also be achieved.


Self-confidence stems from independence and a feeling of empowerment. A great way for parents to help their children improve their self-confidence is to foster these feelings.


Give your child choices, and the freedom to make them. Help them set goals and give them the tools they need to work towards them. When children are given the freedom to grow, they feel more confident with themselves and their abilities, especially when they achieve.


Mistakes are a healthy part of growing. However, your child’s self-confidence will also matter in how you treat mistakes. Instead of criticising your child, admit that they made a mistake and encourage them to think of ways to overcome this.

Not only will they feel more confident about themselves, but their problem-solving abilities will increase.

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Early Learning Schools can be a fantastic opportunity for your child to develop their self-confidence. If you have any questions about this article, or if you have any questions about our programs, feel free to contact us.

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